Sunday, February 3, 2013

My baby body

I'm quite enjoying this last little bit of pregnancy. Yes, it is harder to get out of couches and bed and I certainly walk slower, but there are some pretty neat things about being really pregnant.

I feel like a mama kangaroo with my little Joey in the front pouch. Baby moves all the time, and it has become quite a natural sensation that I enjoy.
The big belly is actually quite handy, and I realized the other day that I'm probably going to miss it. It's handy for things like propping a book on, my phone on speaker, and resting my hands on or my tea cup/water glass on it. Trying to enjoy the perks while it lasts!

Saturday, February 2, 2013

How to Win Friends and Influence People, part II

The power of a smile. 
Fake it 'till you make it. 
Act like you're happy.

I've heard all these phrases before, but found an interesting explanation of them in this book. I really believe in the power of a smile:
"You don't feel like smiling? Then what? Two things. First, force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy. Here is the way the psychologist and philosopher William James put it:

  • 'Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not. Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there...". (p67).

Other quotes on the power of the mind:

"Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual... Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude--the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly is to create. All things come through desire and every sincere prayer is answered. We become like that on which our hearts are fixed. Carry your chin in and the crown of your head high. We are gods in the chrysalis." (p69).

"People who smile...tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There's far more information in a smile than a frown. That's why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment." --Professor James V. McConnell, psychologist at the University of Michigan (p64).

Personal Story on smiling:

I was in the Missionary Training Center. I was learning Mandarin Chinese and preparing to leave for Taiwan. I was very excited about the whole thing. Then I began to develop a pilonidal cyst, which is a cyst on your tailbone. This was a big problem because in Taiwan, all missionaries ride bikes. You can imagine how painful it would be to ride a bike sitting on an inflamed cyst. I hoped the cyst would go away (it had done so in the past), or be removed and that everything would be fine. I still planned on going to Taiwan.  
I went to the doctor's office at the MTC to get a decision on what should be done. He said he would refer me to a specialist who could remove the cyst. Then he told me that I would not be going to Taiwan. My mission call would have to be changed. He said he'd give me some time and be back in a few minutes.

I was crushed. 

I felt the weight of heavy dark storm clouds gather all above and around me trying to smother me. I welcomed them (misery keeps similar company), and I cried. Good thing the doctor actually gave me 45 minutes to an hour. I was a mess for a little while. I tried to pull myself together, after all, the doctor was supposed to be coming back. I told myself things would be OK. I told myself it wasn't a big deal. It still felt awful.  So then I prayed. I looked up into those storm clouds wanting to shake my fist at God and ask 'Why?', but instead I asked "What should I do?"
I had the distinct impression to smile. 

I was about as far from a smile as a person could get. "That's ridiculous," I thought, "This is not the time to smile."
There it was again, that thought to smile.
"C'mon, God, are you serious?"
Just smile...

So I tried smiling. 
I felt like a doufus. I felt ridiculous. I was still crying a bit, and at first it was an angry smile. A forced, clenched-teeth smile. Even so, I felt the storm clouds begin to part. My jaw relaxed and I looked up, smiling, and confused but in awe. With tears on my cheeks and a smile on my lips I felt the storm clouds dissipate, light come into the room, and I really felt comforted. A huge weight was removed. I KNEW everything would be OK. 
Ever since then, I have known the power of smiling. I have reminded myself of it's strength on many occasions  and smiling has never let me down. If you really make an effort to smile when the world is falling apart around you, things will get better almost immediately. I don't really understand how it works, but I sure know that it does work. So next time you're feeling down, remember to SMILE!

Friday, February 1, 2013

8 months pregnant

Week 36 was a bear. I was tired, achy, hungry, too full, sore, uncomfortable when sitting/standing/walking/lying down, and generally felt like an elephant.

I decided something must be done. I wasn't about to spend the next 4 weeks feeling that miserable. And now I feel great! 39 weeks is no problem! So, what changed? Here are some of the things I began:

-I set up chiropractor and massage appointments once a week. The chiropractor was awesome for my hips. I wasn't super sore, but my leg often fell asleep at night and I'd wake up with cranky hips. After getting my hips readjusted, it was all better :).

-I got a pool pass and began swimming laps twice a week. THIS WAS FABULOUS. I think that being in the water is my natural state of being. I didn't feel pregnant anymore, I could still swim all the strokes just like normal, even butterfly! I'm sure there is a bit more drag from my big tummy, but I never noticed it, except when doing backstroke and I looked down and saw my tummy sticking up out of the water, lol.

-I started actually taking all my vitamins. I was doing this a couple months ago, but felt that it contributed to a bladder infection, so I stopped altogether. However, this time around it has seemed to really help with energy levels.
All my vitamins...
This is my daily dose. For someone who has never taken vitamins regularly, I feel like a pill popper.

-I began drinking nettle tea. (This made a big difference!) I was pretty skeptical when my midwives recommended nettle tea. I'm not a big tea drinker. But something in this mix of herbs is magical. I feel so much better and have more energy when I drink a few cups of nettle tea each day.

-I also tried to be a lot more healthy in what I eat: greens and fresh fruit smoothies everyday.

-I stretch out daily. Sometimes it is no more than just stretching my calfs, but often I go through a full-blown stretching routine. I can still mostly do the splits, and I can still rest my hands on the floor when bent over in a standing position. Stretching out is healthy. :)

-What else? hmmm. I guess I just try to live mostly normally still, rather than making excuses for myself. I still shovel the walks and take out the trash and remind myself to 'suck it in' when walking. I do, however, take advantage of the pregnant-woman parking at Superstore!

I have been enjoying doing a bit of what is called "nesting". Preparing the nest for baby. Someone asked me early on what I was doing for "nesting", and I probably looked at them like they were crazy. But lately I have been making sure we have a spot for baby.

Thanks to Aunt Shar for these adorable outfits!! Valentine's Day is my favorite holiday. :)
Baby dresses are just so cute.